Why Your Baby Hates You

Baby finally starts to settle into a decent sleep routine…and then suddenly, wham! They’re up every hour.

Baby finally starts to become predictable in their feeding schedule…and then suddenly, wham! They’re feeding every hour.

Just when you think you’re finally over the hump or turning a corner, your baby becomes a whiny, clingy, drooly, fussy mess again. What gives?

Does your baby hate you? Are they out to get you?

Ha, nope.

But it’s probably a Leap.

What the what?

I’ve always had unpredictable babies. Babies, as in the one I had before. Weirdly, new baby is exactly the same as older baby (now a tween). Just when I thought things were getting predictable, they’d flip the script.

I honestly thought I just had kids who didn’t like settling, sleeping, routine, etc. And maybe I do. But a friend of mine turned me onto something called The Wonder Weeks. Let me tell you, it’s been a life saver.

Well, it hasn’t really changed my kid’s behaviour, but it has made me feel less like I’m going nutsy-cuckoo.

What is The Wonder Weeks?

The Wonder Weeks is the name given to a series of developmental phases or milestones that a baby / toddler goes through at semi-predictable times during their first few years of life. Even though all babies are different, the vast majority of children go develop certain abilities or milestones in and around the same time, give or take a couple of weeks on either side.

Each “Leap”, as they’re called, has it’s own signs (eg: renewed clinginess, sleeping less, more fussing, etc) as a baby learns certain new abilities (eg: bringing hands together, being able to grab a toy without missing, etc).

Although each child will focus on certain abilities within each set to work on, each child will have developed to a stage where, theoretically, they can start to master all of those particular abilities.

The Leaps last anywhere from a couple of weeks to a month or more, and so far they have made all the difference in my understanding of my baby’s behaviour and demeanor. It’s almost been like clockwork in terms of when she starts fussing and her sleep patterns change, and suddenly she’s able to do something new almost every day!

It’s really been a joy to watch even if it hasn’t always been fun to live through.

So why is baby a jerk?

Someone described each of these leaps to me in the following way:

Imagine going to bed one night, and everything around you feels familiar and safe. Then you wake up the next morning and WHAM! EVERYTHING you know is different – sights, sounds, feelings, and the way you perceive the world around you.

It’d be overwhelming for a grown up, so imagine what it must be like for a baby.

So really, the only thing to do is comfort your baby through it and remember, they’re not doing this (whatever “this” is for your particular baby) to upset you. They don’t hate you. They are overwhelmed by all the learning and development going on in their brains.

If you want to learn more, check out the video below, as well as the links under the video for more on The Wonder Weeks and the FAB resources available to help you navigate the ever-changing world of your little one.

 

Check out The Wonder Weeks here: https://www.thewonderweeks.com/

Check out the iOS app here: https://itunes.apple.com/ca/app/the-w…

Join the official Facebook group here: www.facebook.com/wonderweeks

**I am not affiliated with The Wonder Weeks, nor am I receiving any remuneration for this endorsement. I just genuinely love it!**

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